Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I’m just not good at this” or “I’ll never figure this out”? It’s a common script that runs through our minds when we’re faced with challenges. But what if you could change the narrative by adding one simple word: yet? This one change makes a difference when developing a growth mindset.

If you say: “I can’t do this.” Reframe it to: “I haven’t done it… yet.”

See the difference? That one little word shifts your mindset from fixed to growth. It opens the door to possibility and reminds you that your abilities aren’t set in stone. This is the magic of “yet,” and it’s at the heart of something called the growth mindset.

What Is a Growth Mindset?

The term “growth mindset” was coined by psychologist Carol Dweck and describes the belief that our abilities and intelligence can be developed with effort, learning, and persistence. It’s the opposite of a fixed mindset, where people believe their talents and intelligence are static and unchangeable.

Believing things can change and seeing possibilities are hallmarks of a growth mindset. Conversely, those with fixed mindsets view limitations, resulting in feelings of hopelessness.

A growth mindset isn’t about pretending challenges don’t exist. It’s about seeing those challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than roadblocks to avoid. And the best part? It’s a skill you can cultivate, no matter where you’re starting from.

My “Yet” Moment

A few years ago, I decided to publish my first book. Spoiler alert: It’s hard and has a HUGE learning curve. Some people would have thrown in the towel, labeling themselves as “just not an author.” But instead, I leaned into the idea of “yet.”

Every day, I wrote a little more and learned about publishing. Some days were hard. Others felt impossible. But over time, my “yet” turned into “now.” I went from struggling to be a writer to now completing four books! My third book, Speak This Not That, is all about changing to a growth mindset.

That journey taught me that the magic of “yet” isn’t just about writing; rather it’s about believing in your ability to grow. It’s a powerful three letter word.

How to Embrace the Power of “Yet”

So, how do you start incorporating “yet” into your life? Here are some practical steps:

1. Reframe Your Inner Dialogue

Pay attention to the language you use when you’re facing a challenge. Replace defeatist thoughts such as, “I can’t,” “It won’t work,” or “It’s not possible.”

Instead of: “I can’t do this” reframe it to: “I just haven’t done it yet.”

This tiny shift can have a huge impact on your mindset and your life.

2. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection

It’s easy to get discouraged, especially when you’re not where you want to be. Instead of focusing on the end goal, celebrate all the steps you’re taking to get there. Progress is progress, no matter how small.

3. Seek Feedback and Learn From It

People with a growth mindset see feedback as an opportunity to improve, not as a critique of their worth. The next time someone offers constructive criticism, ask yourself, “How can I use this to get better?” Also, consider the message. Not all information is equal. Some have more value than others.

4. Build a community that embraces growth

The people you surround yourself with influence your mindset. If you always hang around people who think in limitiations, that may be what you see. However, if you seek out those who encourage growth, embrace challenges, and inspire you to keep pushing forward.

5. Grace of Patience

Growth takes time. Remember, the process of learning and improving is just as important as the outcome. Enjoy the journey, rather than fretting it, and give yourself grace as you navigate the ups and downs.

The Ripple Effect of “Yet”

Once you start using “yet” in your own life, you’ll notice its ripple effect. You’ll approach challenges with more curiosity and less fear. You’ll start to see failures as stepping stones rather than dead ends. And perhaps most importantly, you’ll inspire those around you to do the same.

Imagine teaching a child to tie their shoes. If they struggle and say, “I can’t do it,” you wouldn’t agree with them, right? You’d say, “You can’t do it yet, but keep practicing, and you’ll get there.” Now, apply that same encouragement to yourself.

The Magic of Yet

“Yet” magic lies in its simplicity. It’s a reminder that growth is always possible, no matter how stuck you might feel in the moment. So, the next time you’re tempted to write yourself off, pause and add “yet” to the end of that thought. It might just change everything.

Remember, your journey isn’t about being perfect; it’s about evolving. You’re not there yet, but every step you take brings you closer. Just showing up and trying, my friend, is something worth celebrating.

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